Dear Song Dog
One thing that I understand is that when we spend too much energy on one identity or ideal, it usually means we need to get more balance. This is a distinctly human problem.
Symbolically, if we only live our lives during the daylight, the nighttime becomes a terrifying black hole.
It seems to me that the things we fear is where we should probably be the most curious.
Being in the symbolic bardo of the night is important for balance.